It has to be said that our fears feel like they are a very personal part of ourselves. When we can expand our awareness we often find that many others may actually fear the same things. There is so much that cause people fear, and often quite unpronounceable names for the certain fears! The list covers everything. Fear of flying, cats, dogs, insects, birds, dirt, buses, etc, etc.
The list of our fears may be long or short. They may be common fears, or highly unusual ones. Our fear may range from being uncomfortable with something, to being totally unable to talk, think or deal with it at all.
I was now going to say that the best advice I’ve been given by far, is to come to terms with facing your fear. If you can learn to even shift perspective about it slightly, then that is your first ‘Baby-step’ to overcoming your issue. It is a step that will enable you to gradually start towards shifting how you feel about it.
There is no hard and fast set of rules, but slowly and gradually examining your fears will give you the opportunity to come across ways to find new insights and perspectives which in time may help you .
The magic begins when you discover new ways and ideas on changing your thought patterns. This allows you to change your approach because you are beginning to take control of your emotions, rather than your emotions being in control of you.
It stops your fear from defining you, for example ‘Oh here comes Mary! She’s that one that’s frightened of ……….?’
You can stop being the victim letting fear hold you back, and eventually gain your control back. It is a great triumph when you have mastered what has held you back.
I was just about to say that running away from your fears never helps in the long run! Life has a habit of bringing them back into your life again and again until you are ready to face them, embrace them and move forward!
I wholeheartedly believe what I have written, however at the time of writing, I cannot say my son shares my sentiments! He may be 6 foot 4″ tall, and at 21 thinks he’s the man of the house, but whilst I was writing this one of his fears has just turned up!
He’s just encountered a ‘Huge’ spider in his bedroom (Really?) lol. Thinking I was asleep, he’s tried to deal with getting it out himself. (I’m having a proud moment!.) However……the spider gave chase and ran at him on the bed, before obviously putting his cloak of invisibility on!
Still not giving up, brave Dan has totally trashed his bedroom whilst trying to find it.
I guess he’s fallen back on the ‘Running from your problems’ solution, and was last seen heading downstairs to the safety of the sofa with his pillows and duvet!
The moral of this appears to be that we are all free to choose how to deal with fear! I’m now speaking as the ‘One’ who has to go spider catching, and suddenly the thought of confronting a pissed-off, big hairy spider sounds like a stupid idea! Yup, I’m not a spider fan either, so the running away option doesn’t sound like a bad idea!
Wish me luck! x