Why it helps to face your fears!

It has to be said that our fears feel like they are a very personal part of ourselves.  When we can expand our awareness we often find that many others may actually fear the same things. There is so much that cause people fear, and often quite unpronounceable names for the certain fears! The list covers everything. Fear of flying, cats, dogs, insects, birds, dirt, buses, etc, etc.

The list of our fears may be long or short. They may be common fears, or highly unusual ones. Our fear may range from being uncomfortable with something, to being totally unable to talk, think or deal with it at all.

I was now going to say that the best advice I’ve been given by far, is to come to terms with facing your fear.  If you can learn to even shift perspective about it slightly, then that is your first ‘Baby-step’ to overcoming your issue. It is a step that will enable you to gradually start towards shifting how you feel about it.

There is no hard and fast set of rules, but slowly and gradually examining your fears will give you the opportunity to come across ways to find new insights and perspectives which in time may help you .

The magic begins when you discover new ways and ideas on changing your thought patterns. This allows you to change your approach because you are beginning to take control of your emotions, rather than your emotions being in control of you.

It stops your fear from defining you, for example  ‘Oh here comes Mary! She’s that one that’s frightened of ……….?’

You can stop being the victim letting fear hold you back, and eventually gain your control back. It is a great triumph when you have mastered what has held you back.

I was just about to say that running away from your fears never helps in the long run! Life has a habit of bringing them back into your life again and again until you are ready to face them,  embrace them and move forward!

I wholeheartedly believe what I have written, however at the time of writing, I cannot say my son shares my sentiments! He may be  6 foot 4″ tall, and at 21 thinks he’s the man of the house, but whilst I was writing this one of his fears has just turned up!

He’s just encountered a ‘Huge’ spider in his bedroom (Really?) lol. Thinking I was asleep, he’s tried to deal with getting it out himself. (I’m having a proud moment!.) However……the spider gave chase and ran at him on the bed, before obviously putting his cloak of invisibility on!

Still not giving up, brave Dan has totally trashed his bedroom whilst trying to find it.

I guess he’s fallen back on the ‘Running from your problems’ solution, and was last seen heading downstairs to the safety of the sofa with his pillows and duvet!

The moral of this appears to be that we are all free to choose how to deal with fear! I’m now speaking as the ‘One’ who has to go spider catching, and suddenly the thought of confronting a pissed-off, big hairy spider sounds like a stupid idea! Yup, I’m not a spider fan either, so the running away option doesn’t sound like a bad idea!

Wish me luck! x


THE CODE – 10 Intentions for a Better World!

I came across these Ten Intentions for a Better World quite a while ago. They really resonated with me on a very deep level. I don’t know who the author is, but I am truly grateful for their wisdom and insight. It is recommended to read these through daily.  No matter what is going on in the World around us, we can take personal responsibility of our own intentions. We can choose our own path to creating a better world.

The First Intent – Support Life!

I refrain from opposing or harming anyone. I allow others to have their own experiences. I see life in all things and honor it as if it were my own. I support life!

The Second Intent – Seek Truth!

I follow my inner compass and discard any beliefs which are no longer serving me. I go to the source. I seek truth!

The Third Intent – Set Your Course!

I begin the creative process. I give direction to my life. I set my course!

The Fourth Intent – Simplify!

I let go so there is room for something better to come in. I intend that I Am guided, guarded, protected, and lined up with the Highest Good at all times. I trust and remain open to receive from both expected and unexpected sources. I Simplify!

The Fifth Intent – Stay Positive!

I see good, say good, and do good. I accept the gifts from all my experiences. I Am living in Grace and Gratitude. I stay positive!

The Sixth Intent – Synchronize!

After intending & surrendering, I take action following the opportunities that are presented to me. I Am in the Flow where Great Mystery and Miracles abide, fulfilling my Desires, and doing what I came here to do. I Synchronize!

The Seventh Intent – Serve Others!

I practice Love in Action. I always have enough to share, and enough to spare. I Am available to help those who need it. I Serve Others!

The Eighth Intent – Shine Your Light!

I Am a magnificent being, awakening to my Highest Potential.

I express myself with joy, smiling easily and laughing often. I Shine my Light!

The Ninth Intent – Share Your Vision!

I create my world by envisioning it, and telling others about it. I Share my Vision!

The Tenth Intent – Synergize

I see Humanity as One. I enjoy gathering with light-hearted people regularly. When we come together, we set the stage for Great Oneness to reveal itself. We Synergize!

Author Unknown


My 10 Steps to self-care!

1)  Treat yourself with kindness and compassion at all times!

2) Avoid other people’s negative dramas and gossip!

3) Don’t do anything that doesn’t feel right to you!

4) Don’t spend your time people-pleasing!

5) Learn to say No whenever you want!

6) Encourage yourself to say Yes as well!

7) Don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself and express your needs!

8) It’s never too late to follow your dreams!

9) Let go of whatever and whoever brings you down!

10) Take the time to celebrate your life with people you love!


I hope that these ideas will inspire you to create a list of your own. Sometimes we all need reminding that we need to care for ourselves as well! x

By D Lord